In Episode 21 of Divorce Diaries: Lessons from the Trenches, host Cary Jacobson sits down with Tracey Bee, also known as The Divorce Solutionist. With over 25 years of experience as a family law attorney, Tracey has transitioned from courtroom litigator to coach and advocate for individuals navigating divorce without legal representation. Her mission: to equip people—especially those from underserved and marginalized communities—with the knowledge, tools, and support they need to represent themselves effectively in family court.
This episode dives into the realities of self-representation in divorce, a path chosen by many due to financial limitations, mistrust of the legal system, or a desire to retain control over their own cases. While empowering, this choice also presents unique challenges—from decoding legal procedures to overcoming systemic bias in the courtroom.
Highlights from the episode include:
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The most common obstacles pro se litigants face, including legal jargon, information overload, and lack of procedural clarity
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The emotional and psychological toll of representing yourself in court—and how to stay grounded
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Practical tips on preparing for hearings, organizing your documents, and managing deadlines
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Why alternative dispute resolution methods like mediation can sometimes be more effective than litigation
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How to make the most of free court resources and when to invest in limited legal advice or coaching
Tracey also shares her perspective on why mindset matters just as much as strategy. Confidence, preparation, and a willingness to learn are key components of success for those who go it alone in family court.
Whether you’re considering representing yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode offers a wealth of guidance from someone who truly understands both sides of the courtroom.
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💡 Learn more about Tracey Bee and her coaching programs at thedivorcesolutionist.com
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