In Episode 23 of Divorce Diaries: Lessons from the Trenches, Cary Jacobson—attorney, mediator, and founder of Jacobson Family Law—welcomes Dr. Emma Mansour, a licensed psychologist and the owner of Life Matters Counseling and Psychological Services in Utah. With over a decade of experience helping individuals navigate major life transitions, Dr. Mansour brings deep insight into the emotional complexities that often accompany divorce, especially for women in midlife.
The Emotional Weight of Divorce
Divorce is more than a legal process—it is an emotional upheaval. One of the most common and unexpected hurdles people face is the sense of loss that emerges after the legal proceedings are over. Many anticipate feeling relief once the paperwork is finalized, only to be met with waves of grief, shame, fear, and anger. These emotions can be confusing, particularly when they resurface after what feels like the end of the divorce process.
Emotional healing takes time and often unfolds in stages. Over time, though, clarity emerges. This transition may involve learning to sit with discomfort, reexamining identity, and finding new ways to connect with one’s self and others.
Rediscovering Identity in Midlife
For many individuals—particularly women —divorce dismantles familiar roles such as partner, parent, or caretaker. These roles often define one’s sense of self, and the sudden disruption can create an identity crisis. Rebuilding involves rediscovering personal interests, forming new routines, and granting oneself permission to explore life beyond these traditional structures. It’s a process that can be messy, slow, and uncertain—but it’s also full of potential.
Building a Life Beyond Divorce
Divorce can be the start of a meaningful new chapter. Many individuals go on to thrive in careers they love, with peaceful home environments, and new relationships that are more aligned with their values. While the path is not always linear, and the emotional fog can be thick in the early days, transformation is possible with the right support.
If you are navigating divorce and need legal guidance in Maryland, visit jacobsonfamilylaw.com to schedule a consultation. To learn more about Dr. Emma Mansour’s services or explore supportive resources for emotional healing, visit her Facebook page at Life Matters Counseling and Psychological Services.