Going through a divorce can feel lonely, confusing, and emotionally draining—and it’s natural to crave connection. But before jumping into a new relationship, it’s important to understand the real-life risks and consequences of dating during divorce—both legally and emotionally.
At Jacobson Family Law, we help clients navigate divorce with clarity and confidence—including the complex topic of post-separation dating.
Is It Legally Okay to Date During Divorce?
In most cases, dating during divorce is not illegal, but that doesn’t mean it’s always a good idea.
If your divorce is still pending, especially in states like Maryland that recognize fault-based grounds, your dating life can complicate things. It may:
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Be used as evidence of adultery
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Impact alimony determinations
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Affect custody and visitation negotiations
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Increase conflict and tension in an already stressful process
Even if you and your spouse are separated, introducing a new partner too soon can derail settlement discussions and delay resolution.
Emotional Considerations: Are You Really Ready?
Dating can feel like a fresh start—but it can also be a way to avoid grief and healing. Jumping into a new relationship too soon can:
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Blur your emotional boundaries
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Distract you from your legal and financial decisions
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Lead to repeating old relationship patterns
Dr. Emma Mansour discusses this dynamic beautifully in our Divorce Diaries Podcast, Episode 23, where we explore rediscovering identity and emotional readiness after divorce. Give it a listen if you’re unsure whether you’re ready to date—or just looking for validation.
What About the Kids?
If you’re a parent, dating during divorce needs extra care. Children are already dealing with change and uncertainty, and seeing a parent with a new partner can cause confusion, resentment, or even anxiety.
Best practices include:
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Avoid introducing new partners until the divorce is finalized
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Be age-appropriate and honest in conversations
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Don’t involve your new partner in parenting decisions
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Focus on emotional stability and routine for your kids
Tips for Dating During Divorce (If You Choose To)
If you’ve weighed the pros and cons and still feel ready to date, here are a few tips to protect yourself:
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Keep it private until your divorce is finalized
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Avoid posting about your new relationship on social media
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Don’t cohabitate before divorce—it can impact alimony or child support
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Maintain boundaries with your ex and children
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Speak with your attorney before making any major decisions
Need a clear roadmap to keep things on track? Our Step-by-Step Divorce Mediation Guide helps you focus on what really matters—finalizing your divorce smoothly and confidently.
Final Thoughts
Dating during divorce is possible—but complicated. From legal consequences to emotional entanglements, it’s not a decision to take lightly. If you do choose to date, go in with clear boundaries, honest communication, and legal guidance.
And remember: this is your time to heal, grow, and reimagine your future.
For more support on navigating divorce the drama-free way, check out our Divorce Diaries podcast or visit our Stan Store for helpful guides and resources.
