It is important to plan before, during, and after a divorce. You may be asking yourself, “Who in their right mind would ever plan for a divorce?” The answer is, exactly that – someone in their right mind. While no one plans to divorce, the fact is that there are about 2 million divorces in the United States annually. If you are thinking about getting a divorce, understanding the process and knowing what to expect can make the process much easier. Here are a few helpful tips to remember when planning for divorce:
1.) Get Familiar with Your Divorce Process Options –
There are several different paths to take once you’ve decided to move forward with a divorce. You can hire an attorney to file an uncontested divorce, mediate your divorce, go the collaborative divorce route or you can litigate and battle it out in court spending unnecessary time and money. A consultation with an experienced attorney can assist you with making the right choice for your situation. Taking the time to do your homework and research of the available options, makes for a much better outcome when planning for divorce.
2.) Get Organized –
During the divorce process, you’ll need to make a great deal of important decisions that will affect you and your family for years to com. The more organized you are, the better the quality your negotiations (and resulting settlement agreement) will be. Begin by making a list of assets and debts and start gathering copies of all financial records such as: your most recent federal and state tax returns, W2’s, pay stubs, bank accounts statements, credit card statements, insurance policies, retirement accounts, mortgage statements, and any expenses related to the children, etc.
3.) Be Present –
Don’t be a passive observer of your own divorce. Take control of the process and find an experienced attorney who can assist you along the way. By taking an active role in the process and planning for divorce, even if you are not the initiator, the chances of you reaching a better settlement with the least stress and cost is much greater.
4.) Begin Putting Money Aside –
Start setting aside money to cover attorney and other legal fees. We also recommend putting away a small amount for the expenses associated with moving to a new home or other daily life expenses that will be impacted by the divorce.
5.) Focus on the Big Picture –
Divorce is never enjoyable, but it doesn’t have to be drawn out, costly or complicated if you plan ahead. Focus on what’s most important, like the kids and your future, instead of the painful past. With this in mind, you will have a greater chance of not only divorcing amicably, but achieving a settlement you are comfortable with.
If you’re considering divorce, contact Jacobson Family Law and schedule a consultation with us today.